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20Jan/090

Change Has Come!

I am finally proud to be an American.  I'm watching the coverage via CNN.com's Live feed which has teamed up with Facebook to provide live coverage online.  What a historic event.  My eyes were definitely tearing up when he said those final words of the oath: "...so help me God."

If you haven't already seen, The White House website (www.whitehouse.gov) has been updated right as President Obama began his Inaugural Speech:

WhiteHouse.gov

A friend called attention to the Civil Rights section of the new site and I am glad it's written that Obama supports LGBT rights!  Below is the excerpt from that page:

Support for the LGBT Community

"While we have come a long way since the Stonewall riots in 1969, we still have a lot of work to do. Too often, the issue of LGBT rights is exploited by those seeking to divide us. But at its core, this issue is about who we are as Americans. It's about whether this nation is going to live up to its founding promise of equality by treating all its citizens with dignity and respect."-- Barack Obama, June 1, 2007

  • Expand Hate Crimes Statutes: In 2004, crimes against LGBT Americans constituted the third-highest category of hate crime reported and made up more than 15 percent of such crimes. President Obama cosponsored legislation that would expand federal jurisdiction to include violent hate crimes perpetrated because of race, color, religion, national origin, sexual orientation, gender identity, or physical disability. As a state senator, President Obama passed tough legislation that made hate crimes and conspiracy to commit them against the law.
  • Fight Workplace Discrimination: President Obama supports the Employment Non-Discrimination Act, and believes that our anti-discrimination employment laws should be expanded to include sexual orientation and gender identity. While an increasing number of employers have extended benefits to their employees' domestic partners, discrimination based on sexual orientation in the workplace occurs with no federal legal remedy. The President also sponsored legislation in the Illinois State Senate that would ban employment discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation.
  • Support Full Civil Unions and Federal Rights for LGBT Couples: President Obama supports full civil unions that give same-sex couples legal rights and privileges equal to those of married couples. Obama also believes we need to repeal the Defense of Marriage Act and enact legislation that would ensure that the 1,100+ federal legal rights and benefits currently provided on the basis of marital status are extended to same-sex couples in civil unions and other legally-recognized unions. These rights and benefits include the right to assist a loved one in times of emergency, the right to equal health insurance and other employment benefits, and property rights.
  • Oppose a Constitutional Ban on Same-Sex Marriage: President Obama voted against the Federal Marriage Amendment in 2006 which would have defined marriage as between a man and a woman and prevented judicial extension of marriage-like rights to same-sex or other unmarried couples.
  • Repeal Don't Ask-Don't Tell: President Obama agrees with former Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff John Shalikashvili and other military experts that we need to repeal the "don't ask, don't tell" policy. The key test for military service should be patriotism, a sense of duty, and a willingness to serve. Discrimination should be prohibited. The U.S. government has spent millions of dollars replacing troops kicked out of the military because of their sexual orientation. Additionally, more than 300 language experts have been fired under this policy, including more than 50 who are fluent in Arabic. The President will work with military leaders to repeal the current policy and ensure it helps accomplish our national defense goals.
  • Expand Adoption Rights: President Obama believes that we must ensure adoption rights for all couples and individuals, regardless of their sexual orientation. He thinks that a child will benefit from a healthy and loving home, whether the parents are gay or not.
  • Promote AIDS Prevention: In the first year of his presidency, President Obama will develop and begin to implement a comprehensive national HIV/AIDS strategy that includes all federal agencies. The strategy will be designed to reduce HIV infections, increase access to care and reduce HIV-related health disparities. The President will support common sense approaches including age-appropriate sex education that includes information about contraception, combating infection within our prison population through education and contraception, and distributing contraceptives through our public health system. The President also supports lifting the federal ban on needle exchange, which could dramatically reduce rates of infection among drug users. President Obama has also been willing to confront the stigma -- too often tied to homophobia -- that continues to surround HIV/AIDS.
  • Empower Women to Prevent HIV/AIDS: In the United States, the percentage of women diagnosed with AIDS has quadrupled over the last 20 years. Today, women account for more than one quarter of all new HIV/AIDS diagnoses. President Obama introduced the Microbicide Development Act, which will accelerate the development of products that empower women in the battle against AIDS. Microbicides are a class of products currently under development that women apply topically to prevent transmission of HIV and other infections.

Today is a great day for this nation... we still have a long way to go - but at least, for once, we're taking a step in the right direction.  A step I hope to be followed by many many more.

13Jan/091

No, please! Not my new Coach wallet!

We all hear the stories... a friend, or a friend of a friend, has gone through the traumatic experience of being mugged - their wallet, keys, cell phone, watch, and/or other valuables taken from them by force; left feeling completely violated and helpless.  Well as of 12/27/2008, I can now be used for any one's reference if they are in need of knowing someone who has been mugged - at gunpoint no less.  Yes... it was bound to happen sooner or later - I mean, really, have you seen my stature?  I'm 5'9", and 140 lbs but still look as if I barely tip the scales at 120.  An easy target, especially at night walking alone (yes, I know, stupid)... anyway, so here's what happened...

I had gone home again this year to visit family and friends for Christmas.  I stayed with my friend Bill again in DC as I definitely wasn't planning to spend another year sleeping on the parent's couch.  Christmas Eve and Christmas Day went as expected - got drunk the night I flew in and recovered Christmas Day with a LOT of water.  The day after Christmas was pretty lazy and when 10p rolled around, I made my way over to Town.  Ran into a ton of friends that I hadn't seen in quite sometime and again, drank way more than I probably should have - but hey, I'm on vacation, right? :-P

As my night drew to a close around 2a, I decided to head back to Bill's.  I had been texting with a friend and, not thinking of the 10+ block walk, neglected to wave down a cab.  As I walked up 18th and turned the corner onto Kalorama, I noticed that there were two people standing in the sidewalk about a 1/3 of the way up the block.  Now, normally, I would have crossed the street - not for the reasons you may think but because I don't like to walk in between people.  I feel it's somewhat rude (although technically it would be them who are rude by standing in the sidewalk but I digress).  As I walk closer, I overhear the individual on the right on a cell phone telling someone to pick them up and as I started to pass them he asked "hey, what street is this?"  Keep in mind, I am two sheets to the wind and am texting... completely not paying any attention.  I look up to my right, I say "Kalorama".  When I direct my attention forward again to continue walking, a third person had come down from the steps of a rowhome, has a gun pointed at me, and says "give me your money!"  At this point, I'm not entirely sure what's going on... in fact, I had no idea what was going on.  My brain had completely shut down and couldn't comprehend the immediate situation until one of the two first men, who were now behind me, forced me to the ground by my shoulder and the person holding the gun said "I'm not going to tell you again, give me your money!".

Completely stunned, I frantically dig for my wallet - my new COACH wallet that I had JUST bought THAT DAY - and offer it up for them to take.  Meanwhile, since I had been texting on my iPhone, the screen was lit up and it was noticed.  The next thing I hear is "that's a nice phone, we'll take that too."  And with that, my phone was gone.  All I could think of at the moment was the gun that was being shoved in my face and saying "that's all I have".  One of them says, "now get up and keep walking up the street"; to which another replies, "yeah, that's a good idea, keep walking and don't look back".  Now, if you've ever been in a situation with a gun... you generally don't want to have your back facing it.  As I got up, I stumbled a few steps and tried to cross the treeline so there was something between me and the gun.

I was only two streets over from where I was staying and as I made it back to the apartment, completely stunned (and also noticing the lack of any presence in that area, pedestrian, bike, or car), I became rather hysterical and tripped over every step up the two flights.  Once inside the apartment, I tried to get my mind to think of what to do.  I have no phone, I have no wallet, no ID, nothing... what do I do?  After having a slight... ok ok... mild panic attack, I notice my laptop and immediately jump on AIM.  Thankfully a friend was online and was able to come over.  We called the police and filed a report, credit cards shut off, and while I attempted to shut off the phone - the representative wouldn't do it as its a company phone, regardless that it's still company policy to suspend lost/stolen devices but I'll deal with that later.

This whole ordeal has been a very trying experience.  I'm still dealing with getting the finances straightened out as they were able to get off a few charges on every card I had in that wallet.  The phone I have not yet had replaced and am using an old BlackBerry but I'm starting to go into iPhone withdrawal.  LOL. :-P I am doing my best to take the positives away from this situation.  I know I should have been paying more attention.  I know I should have crossed the street.  I know I shouldn't have been walking alone.  I know I should have gotten a cab.  All these things, and yet I still ignored every one of them.  Is it my fault I got mugged?  Of course not.  It's not fair to place blame on myself like that - it would only lead to regret, and I have a strict policy on no regrets.

I am, however, thankful.  I am thankful that I was not hurt.  I am thankful that my life was not taken that night.  I am thankful for the lessons learned.  And I am thankful for the friends who were there for me when I needed them the most.

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12Jan/090

Apparently, I have an "Undue Sense of Entitlement"!

I'll get to the reason behind the title of this post in a little bit, but first let me say - thank God 2008 is over with!  Done.  Finito.  Adios.  Goodbye!  I don't say that because it was a 'bad' year, so to speak... but more a challenging one... as is every year that passes.  But these past two years I've found myself to be a stronger person after the year is over and for that I am thankful.  I've been somewhat MIA lately and through several reasons I will not bore anyone with - sufficient to say, I think I'm back... for now at least.

2008 was a fantastic year.  I've met so many new friends, but also lost some; had several great trips and vacations, and some that weren't so great; but in the end, I'm thankful for every minute of every experience and grateful for what's to come in 2009.  I am somewhat sad to have lost two relationships during the later months of the year but I feel it's for the best.  The title refers to a comment made by the last person whom stopped talking to me because I stood up for myself and did not allow him to get away with speaking to me with disrespect - and when I called him on it, he obviously thought I was the one who was wrong.  The next day, he had deleted me from all social network sites, etc (which, for the record, I find hilarious that MySpace, or Facebook are your 'official' friend counters *rolls eyes* anyway).

This was the second 'friend' that had severed ties - the first of which I have put behind me and have promised not to dwell on it - which would involve retelling the story here.  Although it makes me sad to have lost friendships - I truly feel it was for the best.  I wish them both the best in their paths.

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